You may have heard about the legend of Jonny Kim on the internet. His accomplishments have made the rounds on Reddit.
Jocko Willink is a former Navy SEAL commander and a regular guest on Joe Rogan’s podcast. He also hosts his own podcast.
Jonny Kim appeared on Jocko’s podcast on March, 2020. The story begins with Kim recounting how he grew up with an abusive, alcoholic father in Los Angeles who was eventually killed by the police.
Kim then joined the Navy, trained to be a combat medic, went to sniper school, and finally accomplished his dream of becoming a Navy Seal under Jocko’s SEAL Team 3’s Task Unit Bruiser. After serving in two tours, he attended Harvard Medical School, and is currently working as an astronaut for NASA.
While Kim’s story begins with tragedy, followed by incredible achievements, what’s really admirable is his humble, thoughtful, and intentional demeanor. “I’m not gifted,” said Kim. “I’m not smarter than everybody else. I’m not stronger. I just have the ability to stick to a plan and not quit.”
One YouTube commenter said, “Best example of diamonds being formed under pressure.”
Another expressed, “Jonny Kim might be one of the most incredible Americans of our times,” and someone replied, “One of the most incredible humans of our time.”
“Can’t sleep, close my eyes;No need, as dreams arise.”
It‘s fitting I’m writing this in the middle of the night, wide awake, and having just cracked open a beer as I’ll likely have a 4AM dinner once the hunger pangs kick in.
My life patterns are not what are deemed as normal or healthy, to which I cannot disagree. I have had a nocturnal pattern since I was eight or nine, back when I’d be forced to go to bed around 10PM by my mother, but would often find myself awake until past 3AM — as a torrent of thoughts swished through my head.
First, the ordinary reflections pass your mind, about what you did that day or want to do tomorrow, about family squabbles, friendships, and the random school assignments here and there. Then, the thoughts become more abstract after midnight hits, as I begin to contemplate about the nature of my mortality, my eventual death, God, and how is it that I am a being on this planet? Why do I exist?
Somewhat peculiar thoughts for an elementary student, but it is from lying in bed I have some of my most vivid recollections of my childhood and teenage years. Whatever the case, my natural disposition is that of an owl. And, if you can relate, I’m sure you have experienced similar nights.
“There is a beauty to the night; a stillness and quiet where I find a peace that the daytime cannot afford.”
We all know the sins to our health that sleeping late incur, so it is in this article I will list some of its benefits.
The most lasting and immediate benefit I can think of is that sleeping late grants an individual a greater intrapersonal awareness. You are more in tune with your feelings and thoughts, and gain a greater awareness of others. While the daytime grants us the focus to accomplishing immediate tasks, it is in the night we are able to think with more clarity about our long-term, more expansive goals — about what we truly aspire to do in our lives and what will define our legacies.
A second benefit in sleeping late is we gain a greater interpersonal awareness. Even with co-workers or old classmates (back in college), our most interesting conversations always occurred after midnight, when the veneer of normality is stripped away and we feel more free to express who we are outside of our daytime selves.
I’ve worked with some of the most unassuming people who I learned much more about from one late evening of conversation than from years spent together in the office. That goodwill carries forward into the daytime as we become more pleasant and accepting of each other’s flaws at work.
“Disclosure breeds trust.”
For that intimacy to develop, however, it would be odd to have such discussions while performing perfunctory tasks in the afternoon. Some conversations are reserved for the night.
Regarding co-workers, they often wondered how I’d walk into work in the mornings with a smile beaming across my face in my twenties, even though I didn’t sleep and was hungover. When I was younger, I didn’t know what to say. I just felt happy. Today, I think I have a better understanding as to why.
Back then, I’d work 12-hour days, six-days a week for half the year. We’d end work at 10PM, then be in the office by 8AM. If all you’re doing is working, no matter the compensation, life becomes depressing. It sucks away at your soul. Since I was going out almost every night, however, I didn’t wake up feeling that same energy. I got to let out my stress through my evening activities. So, by next morning, even though I ended work late, it felt like a long time had passed since I was last in the office because I had spent the entire night out catching up with friends or meeting new people.
As many people today are struggling with staying-in during the Covid-19 pandemic, I think we’re all gaining a greater appreciation for how much spending our evenings out adds to our mental health. And, sometimes, you need an environment outside of your home or comfort zone to strike up new perceptions.
As for relationships, if a first-date doesn’t go past midnight, likely nothing too interesting was discussed. This doesn’t mean the date was bad. It just means it will take a few more dates to get to know them better.
With more time to heed to intrapersonal and interpersonal awareness for night owls, this has led to research findings which indicate they show a greater propensity to intelligence, inductive reasoning, and creativity while also earning higher incomes than early birds (or larks).
A study by the University of Madrid revealed similar findings but, interestingly, showed that night owls perform worse academically than larks. This makes intuitive sense however. The latter are more likely to be industrious and task-oriented, while the former will be more free thinking — and tend to procrastinate as a result. Having class in the morning may also hinder their performance.
According to some scientists, an evolutionary explanation as to why night owls are more likely to be intelligent or creative is because those of us who stray from a traditional morning routine are more adaptively advanced and predisposed to novel tendencies, activities which would occur at night.
If you’re an aspiring artist or inventor, this is good news for you according to Professor Jim Horne, a sleep neuroscientist. Your best ideas probably arise during the late hours, when you’re likely to feel more energetic compared to others. While creatives tend to sleep late, more practically-minded individuals (such as those in accounting or administrative industries) will sleep much earlier.
Regarding energy, night owls also show a rise in their strength and endurance as evening approaches. So it would make more sense for you to exercise after dinner. As for sleep, they show they need less of it. According to a study in which larks and night owls were both assigned to sleep seven hours for two straight nights (then assigned various tasks throughout the day), the results showed that the latter group are not as apt to get tired or show diminishing performance results after ten hours of wakefulness. The findings indicate larks need more sleep, while night owls can continue functioning — at least for a few days — without it.
Contrary to expectations, night owls are not in the minority. In terms of preference in sleeping pattern, our habits fall under a normal distribution, with generally an even number of larks and night owls at the extreme ends — with the vast majority falling somewhere in-between.
It is likely due to the agricultural revolution of the past several thousand years (which shifted society’s routine to waking up early for farming) that explains why we still operate on a morning schedule. In a post-agrarian society, many proponents are calling for work-hours to be later or more flexible, especially with the rise of the Internet and with so many jobs online which do not require in-person interactions to operate.
There is even the Start School Later movement which has gained momentum since the 1990s, where sleep scientists, educators, and health care professionals have called on schools to start no earlier than 8:30AM since young people tend to sleep later than adults. With such a change, studies have shown improved academic performance and less behavioral problems in pupils such as impulsivity, truancy, and depression.
Are we ready for such a shift?
My childhood self sure would have appreciated it. Too many of my mornings were spent asleep by 3rd period…
“It’s probably a name you’ve never heard of or a place you imagined existing.”
I’ve traveled to several remote locations in my life, and Uzi Island is memorable because the natural elements still reign supreme, as the locals adjust their lifestyle accordingly. To picture Uzi Island is to get a glimpse of how Zanzibar Island was like centuries ago, without all its recent development.
Regarding its locals, there is about 6000 people living here, mainly as fishermen or farmers.
Yet, there is not a single bar, restaurant or hotel in sight, revealing how seldom tourists travel here. There is a school in the area, but that’s about it in terms of landmarks.
Located in the south of Zanzibar, Uzi Island can only be reached by boat or by vehicle during low tide.
Either way, you cross its dense mangrove forests, which is a memorable excursion in of itself.
While Zanzibar is a tourist mecca for those traveling to East Africa, less than 1% probably traverse this far south. The northeast and northwest are the hotbeds for tourism here.
Spending my days in locations like Uzi Island is hypnotic in the sense that nothing changes from day-to-day but the weather. There is no urge to turn its scenic locations into hotels, build its economy, or to make the most of its resources. With so much of human desire driven by exploitation of our environment, it feels comforting to know places like Uzi Island exist where that drive remains muted.
On a personal level, this creates a sort of tension within myself. As I’m reaching middle age, I know I need material accumulation for myself to have a successful future, yet I feel an aversion to it, as I see how people live in remote locations in such peace with their environment. Though poverty is prevalent, the drive to suicide or depression is nonexistent in these locales.
So what should I do? Spend the next twenty years accumulating as much capital as I can, or return to the city realizing that so much of what occupies our mind is a façade? I don’t know the answer to these questions, and I think it’s up to each individual to make that decision themselves.
The only recommendation I can give is that I hope young individuals get the opportunity to travel to such remote locations on their own so they can re-tune their rhythms to nature rather than the market.
The lives here are as worthy as our own, and I’m thankful for such experiences as they’ve widened my understanding regarding the breadth of human experience.
This world is big. Locations like Uzi Island abound everywhere; it’s on us to decide are such locations meant for development or should we leave them as is?
In Japan, cleaning is a normal, routine, and daily responsibility. We clean our office before work, we clean the dojo floor before practice, even school children are taught to clean the classroom before lessons. Before going into public bathes or hot springs, the Japanese wash, scrub, and clean their bodies. Prior to New Year’s, it is customary ritual in Japan to clean your home and office. Marie Kondo has made the art of cleanliness into a global cultural phenomenon. Cleanliness has been even more prevalent and important to public health and safety during the Covid pandemic.
Why do the Japanese focus time to what is considered a menial task by Western standards? I believe the answer is both simple and complex. First, by cleaning we show a gratitude for the things we have and we become more attached to them. Second, by cleaning we begin a deeper understanding of our ourselves and of our relationship with our belongings. I believe that is why baseball players apply pine tar to their bats. Functionally, it will improve bat grip, but more importantly, there is a connection and understanding between the player and his bat. There are countless examples of this behavior, surfers applying wax to their boards, motorcyclists cleaning and maintaining their bikes, or chefs cleaning and sharpening their knives.
Hiroshi Mikitani of Rakuten explains the relationship between man and inanimate objects, “cleaning your workspace is a simple, easy way to remind yourself that you value the work your doing. It sets the stage, both physically and mentally, for you to achieve something great. Value the space you are in. Take the moment, put it on your calendar, make it a ritual. Do this and I am sure you will become more successful.”
The simple act of cleaning your physical and mental workspaces will benefit us all.
Kyoto is a city of contrasts, in which the traditional collides with the present, roads bustle near serene gardens, colorful kimonos dot the streets amidst a sea of grey and green, and geishas scurry to teahouses in the evening while businessmen stumble home from whiskey houses in the morning.
As more businessman than geisha, I found myself stumbling to my hotel on several late nights, forgetting its location as I was in a daze from swirling too much Suntory and Nikka whiskey. Though most bars close by 2AM, the smaller, local joints stay open till much later if patrons are still seated. When I picture Japan, I think of polite society — and nothing is more polite than allowing a patron to enjoy his bottle till it’s finished.
Though Kyotolites speak little English and my Japanese abilities are nonexistent, the conversations were pleasant and many of the bars were family-run which always adds to the ambience and distinctness to a neighborhood.
The Japanese are bounded by a sense of mutual trust and duty, which is evident in how very few bikes have locks attached to them at night. They trust that no one would steal them, for who would do such a thing?
For visitors, Kyoto is frequently rated as one of the most bicycle-friendly cities in Asia due to the sheer number of local bikers and its relatively flat landscape with grid-like design making it easy to navigate.
But what would biking be without interesting destinations to visit?
Kinkaku-jiRyoanji Rock Garden
And what makes Kyoto one of my favorite cities is its uniqueness; there’s nothing quite like it and I have no idea what other city I can compare it to, from its origins as the birthplace of kaiseki cuisine (in which 6-15 dishes are served) to its historic temples and rock gardens.
Taking a 2-3 hour stroll through Fushimi Inari as you glance at locals making crafts, or taking a shorter walk through the Philosopher’s Path to enjoy the view of Cherry Trees, is as quaint and peaceful as life gets — all of which makes it understandable why Kyoto has the 4th longest life expectancy out of Japan’s 47 prefectures (at 84.38 years).
Fushimi Inari
Kyoto is often considered the cultural heart of Japan and what’s beautiful is that, for a modern city, its traditions are still living, from the attire of its locals to the architecture of its temples — a sense of the past is ever-pervading and it’s not too difficult to imagine how life was like here centuries ago, something that is incredibly rare for a contemporary city to maintain.
Relationships are difficult and anyone who tells you that they have a perfect relationship is full of it.
That said, what are the most important factors in relationships?
In HBO’s 2017 documentary, “Becoming Warren Buffet,” one of the world’s most successful investors said that the most important decision in your life is who you choose to marry.
There have been two turning points in his life, “One when I came out of the womb and one when I met Susie,” said Buffett of his first wife, who died in 2004. “What happened with me would not have happened without her.”
Melinda Gates, who runs the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation with her husband agrees, “If you choose to have a partner in life, whoever you choose is probably the most important decision you make.” She adds that it’s “even more important than what career you have, where you go to college, where you go to high school.”
Aside from choosing the right partner, is there anything else we can learn about relationships in general?
Buffett says, “You will move in the direction of the people that you associate with, so it’s important to associate with people that are better than yourself.”
He adds, “Basically, when you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you.
“I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. If you get to my age in life and nobody thinks well of you, I don’t care how big your bank account is — your life is a disaster. That’s the ultimate test of how you have lived your life.”
“While we look to the stars to gleam our future, it is the depths of the oceans that unveil our past. For it is in these channels, we gain an inkling of our current selves.”
Having spent much of my travels trekking across various terrain, I began to feel an inkling for something different. While the beauty of landscapes and cityscapes leaves one in awe, what lies below is a bit of a mystery. It is from the cajoling of scuba enthusiasts that I decided to give it a go and googled, “Best diving spots in the world.”
What immediately captured my attention was Sipidan Island, purely because of the sheer number of aquatic life I saw from its images. Located in the heart of the Indo-Pacific Basin, Sipidan has one of the most robust marine ecosystems in the world, with over 3000 species of fish.
But how does one go about learning how to scuba dive? It can’t be too difficult to find an operator, right? So it is on a whim I bought a plane ticket to Borneo to figure it out. When I plan my trips, all I do is purchase the plane ticket. Where I stay, who I meet, I leave up to serendipity and my intuition to guide me. This makes my arrivals at airports a thrilling experience because I have no idea how my trip will unfold, or even where I’m going to sleep for the night.
This also allows me to negotiate better deals, especially in developing countries where prices are rarely fixed, unlike the rates advertised online. Naturally, guides and operators are much more willing to offer steep discounts in-person. The only suggestion I’ll give is to speak to the owners or management directly, as employees will usually not have the interest or authority to negotiate rates. Mom-and-pop shops will give you the best deals, especially at boutique hotels where they’ll be willing to throw in upgrades to suites since travelers often don’t rent them.
To keep the coral reefs pristine, Sipidan does not allow people to stay past 3PM on the island, though they have increased their permit allotment to 176 divers per day (as of 2019). No overnight accommodations exist. Instead, we stay at Mabul Island which is about 14 kilometers away. And it is here where you learn how to dive for beginners.
The process to get a license was far more expedient and lax than I had imagined. The first day of training is spent in the resort pool practicing, while the next two days are spent diving Mabul Island which offers some unique sights as well.
My stay happened to coincide with a turtle-tagging excursion, which I had the fortune to be invited to. The speed of the divers was impressive as they ensnared turtles and roped them. The team of professionals keeps track of turtle population figures, migration patterns, and growth rates.
Then it was off to Sipidan…
Sipidan From Above
Its Dive Sites
The most popular dive site surrounding Sipidan is Barracuda Point (which is considered a top-10 dive site in the world), while the most unique one is Turtle Tomb because you get the opportunity to go cave diving. Turtle Tomb got its moniker from the unfortunate skeletal remains observed of sea turtles who didn’t manage to find their way out. Plunging into these depths and entering the various caverns feels otherworldly, like you’re living a movie scene.
But my most indelible memory is seeing all the jack tuna and barracudas, as thousands will swarm around you. Though it’s completely sensible — but not something you think much about as a land dweller — what immediately struck me when I was underwater is the sheer speed at which schools of fish travel. They envelop you like a hurricane and, as some of the fastest species of fish in the world, tuna and barracudas will dart at upwards of 40 mph as they zip right past you.
You realize how out of your element you are underwater. The currents are strong in several of the dive spots in Sipidan, however, so it feels like you’re flying through the ocean at times. It all makes for quite the experience.
Looks like one massive aquarium:
Diving all day is taxing. And after your 4th dive, you’re ready to call it a day and happy to head back to land. But, after a week spent orangutan trekking, I had the itch to return to Sipidan to give it a go one last time for a third day of diving its various drop points.
Though nothing compares quite like your first experience trying something new, I enjoyed my return — as I foresaw it as unlikely I will ever return to this fascinating destination.
“To the city goes excess: where our primordial drives have full reign to unveil their carnal selves.”
Far removed from nature as we conceptualize it, lies cityscapes which show humanity’s ingenuity to redefine and design landscapes to serve purposes we see as fit for human society, be it the sprawling concrete jungles of Asia or the historical centres of Europe.
Saigon
Athens
Just like landscapes, cityscapes have two personalities: the day and night, which serve as a marked contrast in terms of what creatures come out and what role the environment plays. For most of us, we labor in the day to enjoy our leisure in the evening.
Medellin
Like human personalities, the city in the daytime reveals its persona, the view it tries to craft of itself; in the night, all the other elements come to play — and it is at night you can really get to know a city and its people in terms of what they eat, how much they drink, and what is the next spot we’re heading to?
Dubai
Some cities turn eerily quiet at night, like a Zurich or a Venice, while others are bustling like a Cairo or Istanbul, where noise pollution has been linked to multiple deaths.
Zurich, Vienna, and Oslo have the distinction of being the quietest major cities in the world, while at the opposite end Guangzhou, Delhi, and Cairo are the loudest.
Cairo
In the evening, East Asia is infamous for its elaborate room salons and high-end lounges residing underneath corporate basements while America and Europe are more renown for their rooftop digs.
Porto
Hotel-wise, Bangkok offers some of the most stunning views from its contemporary pool decks and sky lounges.
Bangkok
Though I enjoy marveling at the tranquil views of a city in the day, it is at night where the memories are made and humanity’s chaos is at its finest.
What’s the difference between compromise versus collaboration? How do you communicate effectively in a organization? Frances Frei, a Harvard Business School professor was brought on to my current employer as a business organizational consultant.
Her message is straight forward, simple to understand, and has practical value. I implore you to take 15 mins and watch her TED Talk on “How to build (and rebuild) trust“.
While talent, education, and IQ are important, grit is the most critical factor to achieve long-term success.
In 2013, psychologist Angela Duckworth took the stage at TED. Through her research at West Point, the National Spelling Bee, schools, and private companies, one characteristic emerged as a significant predictor of success: grit.
“Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals,” she explained. “Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”